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Advanced Kissing!
Pink Apple must have started the trend.
For those of you who got interested in Pink Apple’s exploration of Kissing a few days ago, we wanted to share just a little more on that theme.
Of course kissing is highly relevant when you’re talking about healthy relationships or techniques to make your relationship happier, healthier, better, or just more fun!
As I meandered through Mamamia (Mia Freedman)’s site just now, I found a post with links to some kissing videos. It’s dated well after our little exploration so we must have got it going. Mustn’t we?
I definitely think it’s worth a look! Who know you might even get some technique tips! Click here or on the picture to be taken to the article.
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Chris Owen of Pink Apple
I’m a Melbourne-based Relationship Advisor for couples who fear that their second marriage could fall apart just like their first did.
So I help them by reskilling them in effective relationship behaviours so they can be confident they won’t go back to old patterns!
Why not follow me on Facebook where I share my own and all sorts of other resources?
Warm regards
Chris Owen
Heads-Up On a Great Freebie for Business Colleagues
I know you normally hear me talking about relationships but sometimes it’s a business relationship that takes my breath away.
I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of Kiwi, Sean D’Souza and his business Psychotactics.com. I’ve been a committed user of their website and newsletter for a long time and have found it to have some great business/marketing information.
Just the other day, I got an invitation that said Psychotactics was giving away a workshop they sell for $2500. And, that they are doing a test and giving a limited number of copies away absolutely FREE…No charge. This workshop, the Brain Alchemy Masterclass, explains why structure—not marketing—is critical to growing a business effectively.
A free giveaway like this would normally have a catch of some sort, but this one (strangely) doesn’t. Nor is there any spinoff for me in sharing this. Nor is it one of those dodgy offers that sound great until you discover it’s been a freebie for yonks. This is a definite GREAT OFFER.
I’ve made sure I’ve signed up to their waiting list, so that I can get my copy of these goodies soon. You should check it out, and if you find it useful, you should get on the waiting list before it’s filled.
I’m sending you this note because sharing good fortune is part of being in a relationship. I recommend you check it out and judge for yourself.
Here’s the link: http://www.psychotactics.com/free-goodies
BTW, I read somewhere on the page that there’s a deadline for this free offer, so have a look and decide.
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Chris Owen of Pink Apple helps people create Better Relationships
Either from our own experience or from observation of friends and family, we all know how painful marriage breakdown can be.
Chris Owen, a Melbourne-based Relationship Coach, helps couples who worry that their second marriage could fall apart like their first did. Chris helps them become skilled in their communications so that they can be confident that they won’t be repeating old destructive relationship patterns.
How The Real You Gets A Better Deal From Relationship Coaching
Spurred on by Andrea J Lee’s recent post and (*hangs head*) also spurred on by a prickly conscience, it’s time to talk about how to reap the rewards from coaching. I’ve been slack and never put this down on paper (ahem, or even into the blogosphere) before!
Just like the best rewards in a relationship come from being the best partner you can be, getting the most out of a coaching program comes from being the best client you can be.
What the hell does that mean?
The one thing I’m positive it does NOT mean is – being on your “best behaviour“!
That’s part of what we all tend to do in new relationships especially early in our romantic relationships. We show to our new partner what we believe is our most appealing mask. In fact, that’s some of what I talk about in my new book, “Turning Head Over Heels Into A LongTerm Relationship”.
During Romantic Love, both people are on their best behaviour, putting their best foot forward, showing their most endearing sides, and the party is a BLAST!
Of course, they’re not intentionally trying to “pull a swifty” over the other. There’s no malice in that unconscious decision to put best foot forward. It’s a very human action!
But it’s there all the same. And as we see all these wonderful signs of their perfection, we wonder how anyone else could have let this prize slip through their fingers, or worse – discarded them!
Chris Owen
And just like in a relationship, that phase is meant to run its course! The Real You needs to come out in your relationship. Once the masks come off a degree of disillusionment is meant to appear. That is intended to 
catapult you into the new phase of your relationship, where the Real You is valued, just as you are.
Showing up as the real you in your relationship means showing up with your kindness and your nastiness, your generosity and your mean-spirited moments, your compassion and your intolerance, your strength and your vulnerability, and especially your most appealing qualities and your deepest flaws. In relationships, we’re all challenged to turn up WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get)!
(By the way guys, just in case you NEED to be told, there is NOTHING more sexy and attractive than a strong person being vulnerable! Or is that just me that thinks that?) But I digress!
How Does That Help Make a Better Relationship?
If you’re working with a Relationship Coach, it’s because you want to make improvements to the relationship. You want it to evolve and take on a newer, more nurturing, more fulfilling place in your life. You’re aiming to create a revolution, from where it is now, into a haven of joys and sorrows shared with the most wonderful person in your life.
So why would you be showing up as anything BUT the real you?
After all, your partner (if he/she is there) is soon going to burst your bubble of pretence. And if not, then the coach either wastes your hard-earned $ getting to the real you, OR you never achieve your relationship potential.
Your coach needs to see and hear what is, so she/he can keep you on the path to where it is your relationship needs to be. Why waste your money, and both your coach’s and your time with pretence?
Withholding your personality in an effort to ‘save time during precious coaching sessions’ or ‘sticking to the facts and tasks’ often winds up wasting time later. Allow your coach fully into your world so they can be fully aligned with you.
So if you really want a Better Relationship, then skip the pretence, and turn up ready to be excruciatingly honest!
More Tips to follow, so you get the best out of your relationship coaching experience.
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If you’d rather, we can meet up on Facebook. All you need to do is become a Fan of Pink Apple on FaceBook.
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Chris Owen is Pink Apple and a bubbly Aussie Relationship Expert.
If you want a better relationship, but don’t know how to get it, then why not follow the beating heart in the sidebar of this blog and take the Relationship Mojo Test? You’ll receive Chris’ free E-Book Your Relationship: From Mojo to Marvellous to help you improve your relationship.
Are You Searching For Better Relationships With Gen Y?
Ask any manager or employer at the moment about what the challenges are at the moment in business and along with mutterings or cheers about the GFC, the words Gen Y ring out like clanging bells!
It seems that we Boomers, and even Gen Xers (which always surprises me), struggle with what to do with our tech-savvy, know-their-own-mind, Gen Y brethren!
As a Relationships Advisor focused more on couples, Gen Xers and Boomers are my target market. So I don’t have a lot of need to deal with the issue. But I’m hearing a lot of pain out there.
So my ears pricked up when my friend Ann Buik told me she was going to run a workshop on the topic of Gen Ys in the workplace. As a workplace leadership expert and executives’ coach, it made sense that she’d have this kind of issue in her armoury of advice.
This workshop was originally planned for earlier this month, but with Ann taking on a new role with my old friend Ross Mitchell from Nesso, and some marketing glitches, it was rescheduled! I must say I’m very pleased about that. That means I could get the word out to all of you people in pain!
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If you’d rather, we can meet up on Facebook. All you need to do is become a Fan of Pink Apple on FaceBook.
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Chris Owen is Pink Apple and a bubbly Aussie Relationship Expert.
If you want a better relationship, but don’t know how to get it, then why not follow the beating heart in sidebar of this blog and take the Relationship Mojo Test? You’ll receive Chris’ free E-Book Your Relationship: From Mojo to Marvellous to help you improve your relationship. Oh and there are other bonuses to be found on the other side of that beating heart!
Should Better Relationships Have A Purpose?
Over at Karen Wallace‘s The Calm Space, Pink Apple has a regular gig as the Relationship expert in the Relationship Space.
Every month The Calm Space has a theme. Each week, 3 or 4 of the contributors add some more food for thought on the month’s theme. As the month progresses, the roots of the theme get tickled and tackled. Opinions arise, stories develop, and sometimes controversy takes the stage!
This month’s theme is “purpose”.
Now, I’d argue that purpose is a bit of a new-age, coach-induced phenomenon.
And I’m a coach – kind of!
If the Calm Space is about moving “from stress serenity one step at a time” then I reckon purpose should be given a good kick in the backside!
So I’m reluctant to add having a purpose to the relationship “shoulds” that hang like boulders around our necks.
I figure that just like you learn to pick your battles with your adolescent children, there are other more important relationship “battles” to attack, than having a purpose! [more]
What do you think?
Oh by the way, Karen offers an excellent e-course to get you helping yourself. Called A Month of Me Time it’s an excellent freebie. I suggest you try it!
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If you’d rather, we can meet up on Facebook. All you need to do is become a Fan of Pink Apple on FaceBook.
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Chris Owen is Pink Apple and a bubbly Aussie Relationship Expert.
If you want a better relationship, but don’t know how to get it, then why not follow the beating heart in sidebar of this blog and take the Relationship Mojo Test? You’ll receive Chris’ free E-Book Your Relationship: From Mojo to Marvellous to help you improve your relationship. Oh and there are other bonuses to be found on the other side of that beating heart!
A Quirky View on a DIY Relationship Partner
Yet again Peter Pearson, one of my two favourite Relationship Mentors, has come up with a clever ploy to get us thinking about unrealistic expectations of our partners.
As he said in his email to his subscribers “Wouldn’t you love to personally design the mate of your dreams?”
While that could sound a bit like Frankenstein’s monster, there is some truth in it, isn’t there. We’ve all got a bit of a list of preferences while we’re out on the dating scene! Come on! Admit it!!
So let’s play a game. You can now design your ideal mate. Pick from any of the traits described below and even add some you don’t see. Go wild. Create a list of all the positive traits you wish for in your mate. Your dream partner can now be assembled like ordering a new car. [more]
Peter and his wife Ellyn Bader run The Couples Institute in the US. I am a regular reader of their work and find their techniques filtering into my own work by osmosis.
Clearly for all my Aussie readers the Bader Pearsons are only available online. But when you have come to grips with your DIY quest and realised that perhap the two of you could do with some help to get back on track, then Pink Apple’s Solutions for Now might just fit the bill! Read the rest of this entry »
Stop Copping Smart Cracks About Your Handbag …
My wonderful image consultant Imogen Lamport over at Inside Out Style is running a competition!
I thought you might want to know about it – if you’re a lady that is. See I’m helping build better relationships between you and me with this heads-up ladies;-)!
She has three handbag organisers to be won.
Switch bags in seconds! Every bag must have one….
Change handbags without having to dump all your things out.
Fantastic for those change outfit – change handbag moments – quick and easy and ensures you never forget to grab your essentials out of your handbag when in a hurry and no time to check through all the pockets. [more]
Go check out the details and get yourselves into that prize draw. It closes THIS SUNDAY, so get cracking! And don’t say I never tell you anything!! Read the rest of this entry »
Better Relationships Between Dads and Sons
We women want good men!
It’s not unreasonable. I’m sure blokes want good women to share their lives with too.
But how do “good men” get to be good men?
By effective relationships with a significant man in their life as they grow, develop, and mature. And by powerful modelling by good men.
Good men are just ordinary men trying to do their best, be self-aware, and be prepared to admit when they’re wrong, and seek knowledge when they recognise they got a gap there!
They’re men trying to be the best they can be. And like all of us, they’re flawed. They get it right sometimes and wrong sometimes.
And guys there’s nothing more sexy than a good man admitting he needs advice or help.
So if our sons are to turn into good men they need relationships of depth and love with their father (for preference).
And they need ordinary men to try be the best good men they can be.
I am watching with delight as Pete Aldin author of Freaked Out Fathers takes on what I have always known was his mission in life – to help ordinary men be the best good men they can be. And help those ordinary/good men build effective communicative relationships with their sons.
- If you (or your partner) are an ordinary man wanting to be the best good man you can be AND
- If you have sons
Then go visit these sites over at Pete’s website Great Circle
He’s currently offering
Dads and Lads Retreat weekends (for kids aged 11-13 and Dads of any age)
Covering All Bases a program for Dads (delivered by telesminar in the comfort of your home)
and Mini Pitstop (for Dads of sons aged 1-4)
There is much advice for us as general parents but little that focuses on building Dad’s confidence in their fathering and providing skills to help Dads build greta relationships with their sons. Pete is the right man to deliver this. Read the rest of this entry »
Another Phoenix Lunch
Back in February in response to Black Saturday and the bushfires that
attacked so many places and people in our state (Victoria Australia),
Pink Apple and two friends decided to run a fundraiser. (Yes we DID say "how hard could it be?" and learned the REALLY hard way!)
Apart
from the fundraising, the event was such a social and networking
success that we've been pressured by our Melbourne businesswomen
colleagues to repeat (and repeat) the process!
Another Phoenix Lunch
So the latest Phoenix Lunch
is now on sale. Most of you who've expressed interest, are now on our
database and received personal information about the Lunch. But just
in case we've missed anybody, I thought I'd let you know how to
register and book for the lunch.
If you'd just like to know about the Lunch so you can make a decision, then click through to The Phoenix Lunch website and have a read.
If you already know enough and you'd like to book, here is the direct link to the registration page,
don't forget to complete your registration with your payment via PayPal
which will allow you to pay by credit card, debit card and EFT.
Of course, fundraising is still our objective (as well as fun and networking) and this Lunch is supporting Post and Ante Natal Depression Association (PANDA).
There's a poll on our website and everyone who's read it and taken the
poll has had personal experience or knows someone close who's walked
through this terrifying illness! That's how significant this is to
women!
One More Thing …
There's
a bonus for those who take out Super Early Bird priced tickets. There's
a draw for several free seats at a workshop that we three are unning in
February. Yes Pink Apple, Angela Esnouf from Creating Order from Chaos
and Janet Powell the Parenting Coach from Mentor Maestro are presenting
a new program called Keys to a Calmer HomeLife. But more details of
that later …
Also We're Looking for Sponsors
If you're
interested in pampering our attendees then why not become a sponsor.
More information about our Jade, Ruby, and Pearl Sponsors here.
If you'd just like to find out the background story, then feel free to have aread here!
Lighting Up the Night
I received this by email today.
Needs nothing else but your eyes on it! Thanks Jeff for drawing our attention!
My sister Sarah wouldn't be here today if it were not for
leukaemia research. I also started my career in leukaemia research and after 20
years I am back working in this field again; my lab is investigating new ways
to help diagnose and treat kids with leukaemia.
Please help us Light the Night by making a donation towards
my fundraising. I'm joining thousands of people to Light the Night. We'll carry
coloured balloons each with a tiny light inside. It will be a beautiful night
and with your help we can do something good; raising vital funds for patients
and families living with blood cancers, such as leukaemia, lymphoma and
myeloma. The money I raise will be invested in critical research into better
treatments and hopefully cures, as well as supporting patients during their
long and tough treatment. Remember, celebrate and give hope at Light the Night
by making a donation or joining my team.
Please click on the image
below to sponsor me
or go to http://my.imisfriendraising.com.au/personalPage.aspx?registrationID=300091
Regards
Jeff
Jeffrey
Craig , PhD, RD Wright Research Fellow, Group
Leader, Developmental Epigenetics, Early Development and Disease; Honorary
Research Fellow, Dept. of Paediatrics, University of Melbourne
Murdoch Childrens Research Institute, The Royal Children s Hospital, Flemington Road, Parkville,
Victoria 3052, Australia
T + 61 3 8341 6346 F (61-3) 8341 6212 "FAO Jeff Craig
x6346" ; M (61-3) 0409 517900; E jeff.craig@mcri.edu.au ; www.mcri.edu.au
Epigenetics
2009 Australian Scientific Conference: www.epialliance.org.au
