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Hug Your Relationship
There’s no one single clue to Better Relationships.
There’s no one simple action to miraculously change your relationship for the better.
But there are a million little things that, when combined, will make a big difference.
Today’s is a hug!
Here in Australia, hugs happen everywhere.
Some hug on arrival, some on departure, some even both.
Some hug at great news, some at great sorrow.
But there are some unwritten rules about social hugs. The main one is that you don’t hang on for even a second longer than is appropriate! It’s got to be a cursory hug.
So if that’s what you do in social settings, how do you hug your partner in life?
The same?
Why?????????????
Out of habit, that’s why!
But hey, would you “air-kiss” your partner? No! Of course not. So son’t social hug him/her either!
Tonight when you get home, try holding your hug for at least 3 seconds longer than normal.
Lean into that hug, feel where you’re touching him all along your arms. Feel where he’s touching you along your body. Be in the moment and soak it all uo.
Then let me know how good it was!
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Chris Owen is Pink Apple and a bubbly Aussie Relationship Expert. If you’re a Mum who wants a better relationship, but doesn’t know how to get it, then why not get started by taking the Relationship Mojo Test and get Chris’ free Audio Interview about Refinding Your Relationship Mojo.
How Compliments Build Relationship Energy – Let’s Create A Benefits List
It’s a simple thing to compliment someone.
But surprisingly many of us struggle with giving or receiving compliments or both.
If you want the person you love to know you love them, then compliments need to be part of your daily relationship toolkit!
Let’s assume you know how to give a compliment. (If you need some help send me an email, a FB message, or a DM on Twitter and I’ll send you a tipsheet.)
Let’s also assume you know how to receive one. (Yes that’s right, just say Thank you, is all!)
So what’s in for you to give compliments out (AT LEAST ONCE A DAY to your lover, kids, and friends and colleagues)?
Benefits of a Good Compliment Each Day.
- More smiles in your day, improving everyone’s wellbeing.
- The people around you feel respected and affirmed by you.
- People around you whose Love Language is Words of Affirmation get a laser-like message of your affection and love.
- Reignited romance in your love life, and who knows what benefits that might create!
- Heightened co-operation in your family and household. The kids might even help with some chores!
- With improved emotional wellbeing, comes improved physical well-being and reduced risks of physical illness and dependence on alcohol, cigarettes and overeating.
- Leaving a legacy to the world of well-rounded, assertive, and compassionate children, and others, influenced by you.
Now that’s just a few benefits off the top of my head. If you’ve got more suggestions, then send em to me and I’ll add em to the list. Surely between us all we could come up with at least 50 BENEFITS TO COMPLIMENTS or even more!!!!
The challenge is on! (Leave a Reply below and add a benefit!)
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If you’d rather get a short message from Pink Apple then become a Fan on FaceBook. I’m adding a Relationship Tip there every day.
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Chris Owen is Pink Apple and a bubbly Aussie Relationship Expert. If you’re a Mum who wants a better relationship, but doesn’t know how to get it, then why not get started by taking the Relationship Mojo Test and get Chris’ free Audio Interview about Refinding Your Relationship Mojo.
Phoenix Lunch #3 Coming Up!
Back in February in response to Black Saturday and the bushfires that attacked so many places and people in our state (Victoria Australia), Pink Apple and two friends decided to run a fundraiser. (Yes we DID say "how hard could it be?" and learned the REALLY hard way!)
Apart from the fundraising, the event was such a social and networking success that we've been pressured by our Melbourne businesswomen colleagues to repeat (and repeat) the process!
Another Phoenix Lunch
So the latest Phoenix Lunch is now on sale. Most of you who've expressed interest, are now on our database and received personal information about the Lunch. But just in case we've missed anybody, I thought I'd let you know how to register and book for the lunch.
If you'd just like to know about the Lunch so you can make a decision, then click through to The Phoenix Lunch website and have a read.
If you already know enough and you'd like to book, here is the direct link to the registration page, don't forget to complete your registration with your payment via PayPal which will allow you to pay by credit card, debit card and EFT.
Of course, fundraising is still our objective (as well as fun and networking) and this Lunch is supporting Post and Ante Natal Depression Association (PANDA). There's a poll on our website and everyone who's read it and taken the poll has had personal experience or knows someone close who's walked through this terrifying illness! That's how significant this is to women!
One More Thing …
There's a bonus for those who take out Super Early Bird priced tickets. There's a draw for several free seats at a workshop that we three are unning in February. Yes Pink Apple, Angela Esnouf from Creating Order from Chaos and Janet Powell the Parenting Coach from Mentor Maestro are presenting a new program called Keys to a Calmer HomeLife. But more details of that later …
Also We're Looking for Sponsors
If you're interested in pampering our attendees then why not become a sponsor. More information about our Jade, Ruby, and Pearl Sponsors here.
If you'd just like to find out the background story, then feel free to have aread here!
Couple Negotiation
Here are two different Bader-Pearson articles on Negotiation for Couples.
One is informative while the second is an exercise.
Download Super Negotiating for Couples
Download Steps for Effective Negotiation
Permission to use these was given by Bader and Pearson at a recent workshop I attended
Have You Been Calmed?
Don't know about you, but my life is one endless whirl.
(I'd love to finish off that sentence with "of parties" but unfortunately my life is far too boring for that!)
But let's not get distracted by my lack of social life!
As I was saying, when my own thoughts so rudely interrupted me, my life seems to be whirling along at a pace that I'd rather put some brakes on.
How often do YOU feel like that?
Fortunately each month Karen Wallace takes pity on us all and brings us The Calm Space.
Before I go on I must confess my bias. I am a contributor each month with my musings on the
Relationship Space. (This month – Truth and Lies in Relationships: Are You Perpetrator Victim Or Both?)
However I'm telling you about it, because I get heaps out of reading the online mag's
other great articles.
Karen describes her little virtual haven like this:
The Calm Space is an online magazine that is like a
virtual day-spa for your senses… decadent,informative, relaxing, a
real no-mobile-phones-allowed kind of escape where you can chill for a
minute or an hour and emerge refreshed and ready to face anything your
day throws at you!It’s a rare woman who doesn’t succumb to chaos and madness at some
stage during her busy week. Whatever your particular life situation,
and no matter how your day is going, you will find respite within the
spaces here.
What I love is:
- the great themes for each month's articles. July = Truth, June = Kindness May = Work April = Conversations
- zeroing in on Karen's (@karenwallace) own infectious Calm in the Serenity Space
- getting some insights into organising from Angela Esnouf (@creatingorder) of Creating Order from Chaos on the Organising Space
- tapping into my spiritual side with Annie Hutton's challenges on the Spiritual Space
- pampering myself (well at least in my dreams) at the Spa Space
- Reading the most exquisite prose about all things Nature from Amy Palko (@amypalko) at the Nature Space
- Filling my books wishlist from the fabuloso Marj's Lim's (@SlimInkMarjorie) suggestions on the latest good books in the Reading Space
- Swallowing my dose of financial medicine from the gorgeous Grant Wallace on Money Space (Alright I confess sometimes I'm a bit scared to go there, but always end up glad I did.)
- There's even monthly prizes (tho i don't get to be in that prize draw for obvious reasons!)
So when I need a bit of chillin' I go to The Calm Space.
Does it help you like that?
Couldn't you just punch 'em sometimes?
Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson are both life partners and relationship experts. I often use their theories and practice in my work with couples.
So I had a little chuckle when reading their blog today.
Let me know if this rings true for you?
After all, no-one will get our communications correctly if all they have to go on is assumptions and mind-reading. It's up to us to be clear - even when doing so, means revealing just how tempting it can be to "kick out" at someone we love!
It's only a short story but worth the read!
You may be surprised to find that this is not Peter Pearson
speaking. No, I am the humble guest writer, his daughter Molly.
interactions from
the two of us that end with "man, there's gotta be a lesson in
there somewhere." This time is no different. But since in this
situation, I'm the offender, he entreated me to write it in
exchange for exonerating my wrong. [more]
Food for Thought
Received this from a friend recently!
You are driving down the road in your car on a wild, stormy night, when you pass by a bus stop and you see three people waiting for the bus:
- An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.
- An old friend who once saved your life.
- The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.
Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing that there could only be one passenger in your car?
Think before you continue reading.
This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.
You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first. Or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to pay him back.
However, you may never be able to find your perfect mate again.
YOU WON'T BELIEVE THIS…
The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming up with his answer. He simply answered: 'I would give the car keys to my old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams.'
Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to 'Think Outside of the Box.'
Food for thought really!
