Posts Tagged ‘depression’
Will You PLEASE Answer the Question?
Some people are very clever at keeping people at bay, so they don’t have to REALLY answer any questions put to them.
Sure, it’s annoying! But is it such a big deal? I asked a mate, who’s a bloke, (Warwick Merry) to guest post …
Will You Please Answer The Question?
So often on TV shows that have a court room scene, some lawyer will ask a witness a question, that is responded to but not answered. Typically the lawyer interrupts with a very firm, “Will you please answer the question?”
- http://www.ruokday.com.au/
Keep this in mind for Thursday.
You see, Thursday is R U OK Day. This has come about because people (particularly men) won’t answer the question.
We are in the habit of responding to “Are you ok?” with “I’m fine”.
What most men don’t realise is that FINE stands for:
F*&ked up,
Insecure,
Neurotic and
Emotional.
We don’t like exposing how we are feeling. We carry invisible burdens that only we see and feel (and they are heavy burdens). For some men, and more and more women, these invisible burdens get so heavy that we get confused. In that confusion, suicide seems like a valid option.
The founder of the RUOK organisation, Gavin Larkin, founded it because his successful and gregarious father suicided. (See Gavin’s story on Australian Story tonight on Australia’s ABC). Gavin felt that a simple conversation started with the question R U OK would help combat the rising suicide numbers in Australia.
The question R U OK is very important, but not as important as the answer.
So on Thursday, don’t forget to ask the question to some of your friends, and if someone asks you the question, answer it! Don’t have them feeling like the lawyer shouting “Will you please answer the question!” A problem shared is a problem halved. For those men (typically in senior roles) who are thinking, “I couldn’t answer the question it would ruin my reputation, authority, ego or whatever” – today’s Get More Goer is dedicated to you.
Will you PLEASE answer the question?
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Warwick Merry is The Get More Guy. Helping people and business Get More Results, More Energy and More Fun.
Depression – The Black Dog Might Be Living in Your Relationship
It’s Australia Day and we’re all supposed to be celebrating.
But if someone you love is not feeling like celebrating, perhaps there’s a good reason.
Depression.
I could write a whole article about that, but why would I? I’ve just seen a terrifically effective simple article about depression over on my friend Renee Mayne of Bra Queen’s site! It may explain a lot.
And if depression is wobbling your relationship off it’s stable footing, Pink Apple (as a skilled counsellor) can help you establish a new footing that accommodates the Black Dog in your family.
Using Pink Apple’s Relating Better Program, all three of us could have a 2-hour (one-off and no obligation) First Steps Session to establish how things are, and what might need to be different. It will help you:
- take stock of what the situation is
- get clear what you want to do about it.
- decide if you want some coaching assistance
Relating Better also has a Solutions for Now Program which may be one of the options you could choose.
Solutions For Now is a series of four coaching sessions and uses an assessment tool to establish your preferred behaviour styles. It’s intended to help you regain the lost connection between you. It will help you:
- get over a problem that’s been holding back your relationship/could lead to the breakdown of your relationship
- use new tools to address an old problem
- get objective feedback on how your preferred behavior styles might be impacting your relationships
Depression in your family creates hurdles for everyone including the sufferer. Depression and that bloody Black Dog have visited our family just as it visits many! So Pink Apple has an intimate knowledge of what happens when it starts running around in a relationship. We’d love to help you move forward.
In the meantime, go over and read Renee’s simple and to-the-point Depression Checklist. Read the rest of this entry »
Phoenix Lunch #3 Coming Up!
Back in February in response to Black Saturday and the bushfires that attacked so many places and people in our state (Victoria Australia), Pink Apple and two friends decided to run a fundraiser. (Yes we DID say "how hard could it be?" and learned the REALLY hard way!)
Apart from the fundraising, the event was such a social and networking success that we've been pressured by our Melbourne businesswomen colleagues to repeat (and repeat) the process!
Another Phoenix Lunch
So the latest Phoenix Lunch is now on sale. Most of you who've expressed interest, are now on our database and received personal information about the Lunch. But just in case we've missed anybody, I thought I'd let you know how to register and book for the lunch.
If you'd just like to know about the Lunch so you can make a decision, then click through to The Phoenix Lunch website and have a read.
If you already know enough and you'd like to book, here is the direct link to the registration page, don't forget to complete your registration with your payment via PayPal which will allow you to pay by credit card, debit card and EFT.
Of course, fundraising is still our objective (as well as fun and networking) and this Lunch is supporting Post and Ante Natal Depression Association (PANDA). There's a poll on our website and everyone who's read it and taken the poll has had personal experience or knows someone close who's walked through this terrifying illness! That's how significant this is to women!
One More Thing …
There's a bonus for those who take out Super Early Bird priced tickets. There's a draw for several free seats at a workshop that we three are unning in February. Yes Pink Apple, Angela Esnouf from Creating Order from Chaos and Janet Powell the Parenting Coach from Mentor Maestro are presenting a new program called Keys to a Calmer HomeLife. But more details of that later …
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